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How to deal with Criticism:

Criticism is never a pleasure to anyone whether it’s coming from a teacher or from arch frenemy. Dealing criticism with a tactful way is very much important in every aspect of life. So to know how to deal with it read these following steps.

Deal with constructive criticism

The first step to deal with the criticism is you have to know where the feedback is coming from and understand the intentions of the person who is giving it to you. If your teacher or your superior criticise you than  that means he/she wants you to perform more well than what you are performing now by showing constructive criticism, but when it’s coming from a supposed friend, a frenemy, or even from an enemy, then you have to wonder whether the person has best interest about you. This can represent the destructive criticism. Constructive criticism is, ideally, meant to help you. Destructive criticism is only intended to cause hurt. So try to focus on the message which has delivered rather to react instantly on the same.

Find truth of those words : Try to find there is a possibility that there are some truth to those words, and if you have heard similar comments before, then there may some possibilities of having truth in such comments. For example if ten people told that you were selfish then they can all be wrong?

Address the criticism : Suppose your teacher is saying you need to more study and research on your topic rather than to be so casual. If your boss is saying that you are disorganised, take time to organise your desk to become more control. If your boyfriend is saying you are more demanding than give some space to him and spend time with your girlfriends.

Say “Thank You”: Keep this in mind that if you are receiving from a friendly and helpful way than appreciate that person’s view not as a criticism take this as to reconcile your performance, and thank that person for showing you the way for your future betterment.

Take feedback and address it : Whenever you are receiving any criticism if you know the person is saying truth do not defend the person or even do not give lame excuses immediately like, ‘ actually the fact is…’, ‘I know that…’,  ‘I have already done…..’ etc. It is always better to know what the other persons is thinking about you do not stop them to speak on it, note the feedback and address it. Try to stay quite while receiving any feedback from any one, it shows the maturity to become quite rather than to giving excuse.

Take Constructive Criticism Seriously: It is very much true that it is always tough to deal with any well meaning criticism, especially when you are convinced that you are perfect, but always remember that constructive criticism always makes you better person if you take it seriously and work on it.

Deal with destructive criticism

Know the person’s true motives:  If you can guess that the criticism is completely harmful to you then treat it as destructive criticism and try to understand the person’s true motives, is it the cause of any jealousy, of may be the person is in bad mood and taking it out on someone. Whatever may be the reason it is to be remembered that how to deal with this type of criticism.

Find the message under it: Try to put on that person’s shoe and try to justify the figure and facts. For this type of situation it is better to not answer promptly, especially in any working area. In spite of being a bigger person it is really hard to judge the criticism’s parameter to find the message under it. You may

Ignore : Whatever is the situation is you have to make yourself prepare in day to day life to receive criticism and deal with cool and intelligent way and to do so make yourself confident which is the key factor of any one’s life, stay strong no matter what other people are saying about you and don’t get influenced by other’s thought by you and take any whimsical decision on based on that. If the criticism does not have any basis then tries to ignore this and keep doing what you are doing.

“Self Criticism is the best Criticism”: It is also important to not to overlook your flaws, always try to justify your flaws and try to rectify yourself. And most important part don’t feel bad if you are not able to take any negative criticism, in such cases try to avoid them or stop caring what people think about you.